How to turn a long-sleeved shirt into a short-sleeved shirt without sewing and without it looking all dorky

It's finally summer, so I decided to take out my boys' summer clothes and put away their winter clothes. As I was folding shirts, I got the most faaaabulous idea about how to get more use out of some of the long-sleeved shirts that I was about to put away. I'm sure it's not an original idea, but this is what I did to make short-sleeved shirts... without sewing and without it looking obviously hand-made.

This is a good idea if you are low on short-sleeved shirts and don't want to buy any. Or if you're the kind of person who prefers your kids to wear clothes to death and then throw it away rather than to keep boxes of clothes to be passed on to a younger sibling. Also, it's something you can do if your child really loves a particular shirt and doesn't want to let it go just because it's summer.

Look in your kids' closet. Some shirts have arms made from contrasting material. I had a few of these. Any long-sleeved shirt with sewed-in contrasting sleeves can be made into a short-sleeved shirt in 2 minutes. All you need is scissors.

If you look closely, you will likely find that the shirt has a 'finished' short sleeved hem and a sleeve that has been attached on the inside. If the shirt still fits your child and if the fabric is lightweight enough, all you need to do is turn the shirt inside out and carefully cut the sleeves off. Don't touch the hem, just cut as closely as you can to where the sleeve is sewed in. The raggedy edge will be inside the sleeve and totally un-noticeable.

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Stupid lies that stupid people that tell them to their children.

I'm not a big fan of lying. A lotta times, I may blurt out something unpopular or shocking or harsh because the alternative is... well.... a lie. There are many things a parent can do to mess up their kids. In my opinion, the worst thing they can do is to be a big fat liar.

Once a child catches on that their parent is a big fat liar, it's game over. The child loses respect for the parent and no longer trusts them. Moreover, they become suspicious of all adults, worrying if their teacher, rabbi, doctor.... etc are also big fat liars. What kind of kids do you get? Cynical and mistrustful and oftentimes manipulative little liars themselves.

If I can give you one piece of parenting advice, it's this. I don't actually care how long your nurse your baby, whether they sleep in your bed or whether you feed them Bamba at 6 months old or give them only organic sea-kelp as a snack.... just don't be a liar.

Most people know enough to steer clear of obvious lies. You don't say "We'll have ice cream after dinner" and not give your kids ice cream. That's pretty obvious. A lot of stupid lies parents tell are more subtle, but they're still lies and in some ways, they're even worse than the thing about the ice cream.

This is what I'm talking about...

"You're the best" "You're the smartest in your school" "You're the best player on the team" - In the name of self-esteem, I've heard parents try to puff up their child with this stuff. Insincere flattery is a lie. Even if your kid actually is the smartest in their class, it's inevitable that one day, some other kid will get a better grade on a test and your child will be crushed because he believed that he was the smartest and the smartest one is always the best. Kids need complements, but they don't need dumb hyperbole and insincere flattery. In reali life, it's OK not to be the best! (remember, everyone who passes medical school gets to be a doctor, not just the best student in the class)

"You can be anything you want and do anything you want when you grow up" - There's a fine line between encouraging your children to have big dreams and leading them on. Kids need to know how many hours of daily practice a prima ballerina does or how many years of college an astronaut needs. It's a little disingenuous to give kids the impression that wanting something really really really badly is enough - it sets them up for disappointment later in life. Parents need to walk a fine line between encouraging their children to have aspirations, but also recognizing the amount of hard work (and luck!) that goes into everything. The last thing you want is a child who thinks math and science are useless because they're going to be a supermodel or a rapper when they grow up.

"God will listen to you if you pray, learn, do good deeds.. etc" - Parents can't just manipulate their children into good religious behavior by pretending that the Allmighty is like an ATM... mitzvas go in, blessings come out. Religion is deep and complex and you can't make your kids obedient by over-simplifying things. Unless you have a direct hotline to God, you can't say with certainty that He will reward your kids for being good (and conversely, punish them for misdeeds) Besides, this idea loses credibility once they see misfortune happen to good people and you can't explain it away by saying that so-and-so was killed in a car accident because they ate bread that morning but didn't say a blessing afterwards.

"Eat this and you will grow up to be big and strong" - This is one lie my parents pulled on me to manipulate me to eat meat (which I hated!).. they said that my hair would grow long if I ate meat. Well, I didn't eat it and my hair still grew. Vegetarians grow up healthy. So do kids who don't drink their milk or eat their vegetables. Good parents are ones who try to make a healthy diet work around a child's preferences. It's lame to threaten kids with stunted growth to get them to eat their dinner. There are many ideas about what constitutes good nutrition. You never know... your kids may find out that their tall muscle-bound basketball coach is a vegan.

"Santa Clause, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny" - Yes, it's fun to pretend things, but you had better fess up the moment your child asks if something is real or make-believe. Vigorously defending something that's fake makes you look like a liar because they will (one day) find out the truth. It insults children's intelligence when they ask a good question and you reply by heaping lies on top of lies. Also, your child may become reeeeealy skeptical of religion and lump it in with the made-up stories you've told them.

"You are the most important thing in my life" - This is actually a two-fold lie... parents lie when they tell it to themselves and then lie when they repeat it to their kids. I have a huuuge problem with any parenting philosophy that puts the child at the center of the universe. Remember, before you had children, you were part of a couple and before you were part of a couple, you were your own person. Children are high needs (especially when they're small) but when a mother has the mindset that the child is the most important thing in her life, she makes her husband feel sidelined and she allows herself to be made into a shmatta for the childrens' sake. The best way to raise a spoiled brat is to let the child think that their needs (or wants!) over-ride their parents' time, attention, personal space..etc

I actually believe that the best thing you can do for a child is to provide them with a secure and stable homelife. That means that a new little baby doesn't disrupt the whole family's life, but fits into it.

Practically speaking, this means letting go of parenting practices that are "best for the baby" when you become uncomfortable with them or when they interfere with your marriage relationship. If breastfeeding is tiring you out, do it less often or stop. If being a stay-at-home mom drives you crazy, find a job. If you can't be intimate with your husband because the baby is always in your bed, accustom the baby to sleeping in a crib. If home-cooked organic meals are too difficult, serve macaroni and cheese one night a week.

Moms (especially moms with several small children!) need to grow a thick skin and become resistant to mommy guilt. Tell yourself that you're doing the best you can and that it doesn't matter that you're not living up to some ideal standard that someone else set.

I don't know if I have the magic formula for parenting, but I'm pretty sure that if you're honest with yourself and honest with your kids, then you'll be off to a good start.

How to keep friends and influence people to have kids.

As if it wasn't enough that your kids are watching you day and night, parents of small children should do well to remember that another group of people is watching their every move.... their friends who don't have kids.

Let me explain. If you have young children, most of your friends are people who have known you for years and years... maybe school friends or co-workers or neighbors. It doesn't matter how they know you, what's relevant is that they knew you before you had kids and have a "before" picture in their mind. When they look at you now, they see an "after" picture. If they're on the fence about their decision to have a family, they will look to you and think "Is *THAT* where I want my life to go?". So yeah, no pressure.

It's a little bit like being an ambassador... or a Miss Universe contestant. You are trying to present your country and your people in the best possible light and encourage people to come visit your land. I actually think it's a big responsibility... to present your life to your friends in a way that would encourage them to cross over and join you. After all, your kids need friends for playdates, right?

First of all, don't be that mom who has no idea there's a presidential election coming up, doesn't know what an ipad is and is proud to tell you that she hasn't read a book in the last five years that wasn't written by Doctor Seuss. If you were into music or technology or gourmet cooking before you had kids, maintain that interest as much as you can. It's good to have something to talk about besides your kids.... most people aren't really that interested in stories of exploding poopy diapers! More importantly, your friends who are into music or technology or gourmet cooking need the reassurance that parenthood won't swallow up their lives and their personalities.

Nobody says you have to look like Angelina Jolie, but it's a little scary when motherhood renders a friend unrecogniseable. I think we all cringe when she sees a young mom wearing big sweatshirts to hide her tummy pooch, unwashed hair and mismatched socks. I know it sounds awful and vain, but I think moms (especially moms with a buncha kids) should make an effort to get back to themselves... not to turn into a Hollywood glamour model, but to resemble the person your friends knew before your kids were born. So yeah, take 5 minutes to find a cute hat and put on lipstick before you go out. Tummies happen, so eat cottage cheese for lunch a few times a week so you can fit into your old clothes again.

Also, save the war stories for friends with kids. You don't have to tell everyone how awful labor was (hey - wanna see my c-section scar?) or how many times you woke up at night with the new baby (she ate every 45minutes until she was a year old!) or go into graphic details about poop (the first time the baby poops, it's like black tar!). It's not nice to scare your friends... you never know, they might have an easier time of things than you did and wonder why you preached doom and gloom. Everyone knows that raising kids is hard work, you can't lie and claim that everything is easy-peasy... but you don't have to give over the worst case scenario.

Tell the stories of good experiences, if you have them. If you know of someone who is scared of labor, send them over to me and I will tell you my story of taking the bus to the hospital while I was in labor. Yes, I really did that. I went to the post office, then I bought a sandwich and an iced coffee (and a sandwich to go) and then I took the bus to the hospital and Shalva was born a few hours later.

If you have a chance to get out and do something... go! (and bring the baby). It's equally important for you, as a mom, to socialize among adults as it is for the baby to socialize among adults. I've done this with all three of my little puffballs, shlepped them to shiurim, events and parties. If you do this from an early age, the baby learns to be quiet and occupy themselves in public (toys and snacks also help) . You get the added bonus of showing off your cutie-pie baby to your friends (ooooh..... aaaaah.... look at the pink bow in her hair!). If you're going out, it's a good idea to keep the baby awake for a while and then feed them right before you have to leave. You may luck out and get the baby to fall asleep in the stroller and stay asleep for most of the time that you are out.

Everyone has seen screamy babies and fussy babies in public, so imagine the surprise your friends will get when you go somewhere with a baby who doesn't scream the whole time. If nothing else, this is the one thing that can make your childless friends contemplate having one of their own.... mission accomplished!

How to raise good kids....

Being a mom is kinda like being a celebrity. How? Instead of paparazzi following you around documenting your every move, you have your children. It's a sobering thought really. Whether you like it or not, your children hear everything you say and watch everything you do. They probably won't sell your story to the National Enquirer, but they will repeat your words, copy your habits and be the first ones to call BS on you when you try to impress people by making yourself look better than you really are.

A genuine criticism I hear about raising large families is the question of how you are going to impart values and morals on all those children. Everyone knows that you can get help to take care of your family's physical needs... a cleaning lady, a laundry service, take-out meals... beyond that, children need morals and values just as much as they need clean clothes and nutritious meals. Building good character is serious business.

Does having a pile of kids (or a few kids in a short time period) make a mother too busy to give her children a proper moral education? I actually don't think so. It's a bit of a paradox really.. that imparting values on your children can be the easiest thing or the hardest thing.. it just depends on you.

What I mean, is living your life in such a way that your inside matches your outside. Honest people have an easier time raising their kids. Let me explain.

I think we've all heard stories about kids unleashing curse words in school (because they heard the words from their parents) or copying their bad habits (smoking at age 10!) or correcting their mother who is buying movie tickets by reminding her that they are 6 years old, and not 5 years old, as the mother claimed.. because the discounted children's tickets are only for kids up to age 5. Kids notice things, even when the parents are unaware. Kids are the first ones to call parents on their BS.

Back to morals and values and religion and all that stuff that parents are supposed to teach their kids to help them navigate the world. If you can give over all these things to your kids in your actions, then you don't have to use a lot of words. You don't have to buy books or watch video or have cheesy talks like sitcom moms or make situations into "teachable moments"... whatever that means. One good example is worth a thousand words ... and conversely, one bad example takes several thousand words to explain away.

I really think that kids learn more from their environment than anything else. Imagine if a couple in Spain adopted a baby from China. The child would grow up speaking Spanish fluently... but also, he would act like a Spaniard, dress like a Spaniard, prefer Spanish food and have a similar outlook as his parents. I think kids pick up on the non-verbal cues of daily life more than they pick up on a moral 'message... whether it's from a lecture by their parents, from a book or a children's show or even a religious teaching. Think about it... how many things did your parents specifically tell you... and how many things did you just pick up on because you saw 'that's how things are done' ?

It's pretty simple. Don't ever use words that you don't want your children repeating in public. Don't talk badly about other people. Be honest about things even when nobody is looking. Don't break the law. Do the good religious things that you say you believe in. Basically, don't be a big fat hypocrite.

If you don't have to expend all your energy correcting your children and telling them to "do as I say, not as I do" then your life will be easier. At the end of the day, your kids won't be juvenile delinquents because they had store-bought kugels or ate off plastic plates... but they will suffer growing up without a good parental example.

Ebay b' pyjama b' emtza ha laila!

I was online chatting with a friend yesterday - she was in the middle of a sewing project. I'm actually a big fan of necessary skills like sewing, gardening and making your own soaps... and I think it's fabulous how people save money by doing stuff like that. How do I save money? By doing the opposite! Let me explain...

As my friend told me what she was making, I realized that it was something I wanted too. I went to ebay, found it and bought. Total time was 10 minutes. My friend (who saved money by making her own) spent many hours sewing to get the same thing. Ebay is my lifeline.... the only way I can manage to get the things I want and need (with three children, the oldest aged 3 in the house) is to buy online.

Please don't misunderstand.... you can buy practically everything you need here in Israel. But you actually have to leave the house to do that! Your baby may be kvetchy that day. The weather might be bad. You might also have to search several stores to find what you're looking for... and even then, the thing you want may be expensive or junky (or both!). The worst thing happens if you've been shlepping around all day with small children... you may just buy the junky or pricey thing so you can get home and be done with it.

This is my top time-saving *and* money-saving *and* effort-saving tip. If you have a little patience about things and are willing to take a little risk, then Ebay shopping will make your life as a mom easier. How much easier? Sooooo much easier.

The really obvious advantage is that the internet never closes - you can shop late at night or early in the morning or whenever the kids aren't bothering you. You don't have to put on clean clothes or travel anywhere or crowd yourself into a mall where sick people are sneezing and coughing near your stroller. Even if you never save a penny doing internet shopping, you've saved yourself some serious aggravation.

Ebay has everything. Some things are not cheap or easy to ship, but they have practically everything..... and most of it can be shipped to Israel at a reasonable cost. When I say 'reasonable' I'm talking about the post office's costs for regular shipping. There's no *CHEAP* way to ship a quadruple stroller to Israel.... if there was, I would have done it already. But if you really need something and you can't find it for sale in Israel, then it's perfectly reasonable to pay the 'real' USPS shipping costs. I can just imagine the look on the post office manager's face if such a huge and heavy parcel arrived for me.

Why Ebay specifically? Amazon will ship books to Israel at a reasonable cost, but most of the vendors selling their other stuff (baby things, electronics..etc) just won't ship here. Some big retailers ship to Israel off their websites (like Old Navy) but they are protecting themselves by using the fanciest and most expensive shipping options available... all then tracking and signatures and insurance costs... but maybe you want to pay $60 to ship three shirts? A lot of Ebay sellers are small operations, so the shipping is done by a real person going to the post office, so they will use cheaper shipping methods if you ask and oftentimes even if a seller says that they only ship within the US, you can email them and ask nicely and they may ship to you in Israel.

There are also parcel-forwarding services where you buy stuff online and have it sent to them and they send it to you.... try not to laugh when you see these guys' outrageous prices. Unless you're using them to run drugs or something, it's sooo not worth it. Just like Old Navy, they are protecting themselves by using super-secure (expensive!) fast shipping. Israel has a decent postal system, so you really don't need to pay extra for tracking and insurance and such. Besides, Ebay only allows you to pay with paypal... and paypal will refund you if your item never arrives.

Once upon a time, Ebay had a flea market feel to it, but not anymore. Most items sold nowadays are new condition, brand-name merchandise. Israel makes wonderful cottage cheese, but many Israeli brand products are poor quality and on the expensive side. Import taxes make anything from America extra-extra expensive in Israel. Ebay gives you access to the good, reliable American brand name stuff for a decent price.

You can buy almost anything at the shuk, but why not buy Hanes undershirts for your husband, Carter's onesies for the baby and Neutrogena lotion for yourself? New, brand name items don't sell for bargain-basement prices on Ebay, so expect to pay close to what you would pay in American stores. Buuuuut (big but!) wouldn't you rather have baby onesies that won't shrink to half their size the first time you wash them??? And if you're one of those skittish types who's afraid of internet shopping because you can't touch and feel and try out the stuff you're buying, then you can assuage your fears by buying stuff from companies whose stuff you already own. I throw caution to the wind and buy shoes, bras and all sorts of clothing on Ebay and most of the time, the stuff works out just fine. But also, I'm not picky-picky like some people are.

Another fabulous thing about Ebay is the opportunity to buy nice used stuff. American soccer moms (who don't plan on having Mea Shearim-sized families) will sell their fancy maternity clothes after they're done with them. A few months after they sell the maternity stuff, the same mom will be selling the first box of those trendy baby clothes that her child outgrew. This is where you can get some great bargains, if you're ok with buying used stuff. If you ever see my kids wearing Polo Ralph Lauren shirts, please realize that I bought them used. Again, this comes down to quality.... the pre-worn pants I bought for my son from Ebay lasted better than the new pants I bought at Bazaar Strauss. I'm not lying!!!

A lot of people who always buy the newest electronic gadget sell their old gadgets on Ebay to recoup some of their money. Same goes for books, sports equipment, video games, designer bags... anything that holds its value. There are also piles of refurbished electronics on Ebay, most of which carry a guarantee of some sort.

Of course, I have to mention that Ebay is also the place to find rare and random things. If you suddenly decide you want a bottle of the Debbie Gibson perfume you wore during the 80's.... you'll find it on Ebay. If you turned over every rock in Israel, you wouldn't be able to find it! The same goes for most books, movies and CDs in English.. you won't find them here no matter how hard you look. Because Ebay is so huge, there's usually more than one of whatever-it-is-you-want... depending on what you're searching for. If you want a specific book, usually 10-20 sellers have a copy. If you need a size 10 denim skirt.... then you have hundreds to choose from. It's like a mall with 1,000 stores that you can browse in a few minutes.

Like I mentioned earlier, some people are afraid of internet shopping. I don't really have a better answer than "get over it!". If you're afraid to buy things without seeing them in real life - then stick to familiar brands. Also, check out the seller's feedback rating. If someone has been selling for years and has good ratings from 99.9% of his customers, it's unlikely that he will sell *YOU* a lemon. It's a huge hassle to return an item, but some sellers do returns... just ask them.

If you're afraid of getting ripped off - then don't buy designer brand-name stuff (Ebay is full of fakes Gucci, LV, Juicy) and avoid Chinese sellers with too-good-to-be-true prices. You really need a little common sense here... if someone is selling nice clothes because they raided the clearance rack at Neiman Marcus, then they'll have a random assortment of stuff. If someone is selling the same Ralph Lauren shirt in every imagineable size and color, there's a 99% likelihood it's a fake and that once it goes through the wash a few times, the only thing it'll be useful for is as a rag for your floor sponja.

And, yes, you pay for shipping. Whenever you look at something on ebay, just think of the price+shipping as one number. A lot of sellers (like from Asia) try to avoid ebay fees by selling something for 99cents with $20 shipping. Soooo.. if you think the widget you are buying is worth $21, then buy it and be happy. The best stuff to buy on Ebay are small, light items... vitamins, toiletries, CDs, electronics.. etc. Even if something is bulky and heavy and expensive to ship, do a quick calculation of how much it would cost here in Israel and how much effort it would take for you to buy it. If you went to the mall, you would have to pay for bus fare or gas or maybe a taxi if you're coming home loaded with shopping bags.

What else??? Ebay only lets you pay with Paypal, who are very quick to return a buyer's money if their Ebay purchase doesn't arrive or if the seller sends you a broken item or a fake. Paypal protection doesn't cover buyer's remorse or the fact that you thought a sweater was one shade of pink because of how you saw it on your computer, but it was a tiny bit different shade of pink in real life. Like I said before.. picky people shouldn't shop online. If you are super-picky, then you will never fully be happy buying in online-land.

The official law is that you can be charged customs tax if what you buy is valued at over $75. I've paid customs a few times, but I don't actually know how much you pay for what. If you want to be safe, buy stuff that costs less than $75. From my experience, I will tell you that the Israeli postal system is overworked and understaffed (and on a permanent coffee break!) and because of this, many parcels come in and pass undetected. It's a risk, that's all I'm saying. I will add one more thing here.... it is against Ebay rules to ask a seller to lie on the customs form about the value of the item they are sending.... so don't ask. Many many Ebay sellers will do this, as a courtesy, automatically. (wink wink!)

I know what your next question is: what about the stuff I can't buy on Ebay? Like cottage cheese or bread or a washing machine?

If you hunt around a little, you can find a lot of stuff within Israel that you can buy online. This is an area of lazyness that I'm still working on.. finding stuff to buy from here. In Amreica-land, almost all businesses are online, but here in Israel, things are slower to catch up to that.

Here are a few Israeli sites I have found... if you live in Jerusalem, City Direct will deliver groceries, shuk stuff, meat, cheese.. from an English website ( http://www.citydirect.co.il ) . Also, Supersal (http://www.shufersal.co.il ) and Mega ( http://www.mega.co.il ) let you grocery shop online if you can manage the Hebrew websites. Zap ( http://www.zap.co.il ) is great for comparing prices and getting appliances delivered to you - also toys and baby stuff. There are also websites that sell random stuff like pregnancy tests (http://www.pregnancytestsisrael.com ) and Jewish books ( http://www.pomeranzbooks.com ) that come to you by mail.

I am hoping that more and more Israel businesses realize that some of us are sitting at home and can't shlep out in the pouring rain with three little children.

Yes, my husband gets a hot homemade lunch every day.

If I suddenly needed to jet halfway across the world, my husband wouldn't die of starvation. He knows exactly where his next 20 meals are coming from.... the freezer.

I'll let you in on one of my biggest tricks in managing a home while taking care of three little children... frozen meals. No, not those yucky Lean Cuisine meals from the grocery store. I fill my freezer with aluminium pans filled with single servings of tasty wholesome foods that I cook. My husband gets a homemade hot lunch every day... whether I'm home or whether I'm out. He just goes to the freezer, pulls out a pan and pops it in the oven....magic! In my case, these are 'husband meals' but these can also be 'busy mom meals'.

This is how it works.... I cook when I have the time and dish out the food into small aluminium pans. It's really easy, actually. Some of my best recipes are crock-pot dishes.... every busy (or lazy...like me!) mom needs a crockpot (it's not just for cholent!)... because it's so easy just to dump food into the pot, turn it on and return several hours later to find food.

If you are extra busy (or extra lazy...depends on how you look at it) then you can also prep several crockpot meals at once and freeze the raw ingredients. Let's say you get a good price on vegetables, meat, whatever... you clean, check and chop all the 5 tons of veggies and portion them out into jumbo Ziplock bags with the spices and the raw meat you need for your dish and keep the bags in the freezer. When you're ready to cook, you dump the whole bag into your crockpot and add water. (even a husband or a teenage child can do it!)

Here are a few recipes, so you'll get the idea of how easy it is to make this kind of food.

Tuna casserole: cook a bag of egg noodles and drain, add a can of mushrooms (drained), 4 cans of tuna in water (drained), some mushroom soup mix, a little seasoning salt, a little milk and half a bag of grated pizza cheese or yellow cheese. Mush up all together and put into pans! (you don't need to bake.. just pan and freeze)

Tuna pitas: Take 4 cans of tuna in water (drained) and add a can of tomato paste, Italian spices, half a bag of grated pizza cheese or yellow cheese and can of mushrooms or olives (drained). Mush up all together. Buy a bunch of pitas, cut along the edges and fill each pita. Wrap individual pitas in foil before freezing. Again, no need to bake these either.

Pizza quiche: Crack 12 eggs. Add half a bag of grated pizza cheese or yellow cheese, pizza spices, a little milk and your favorite 'pizza topping' vegetables. I like canned olives and mushrooms. Also, diced onions, diced peppers and tomatoes work too. Pour into pans and bake at 180 until set. Freeze after they've cooled.

Chinese noodles: cook a bag of egg noodles and drain. Add 4 cans of tuna in water (drained) and some Asian vegetables. You can buy a frozen bag of 'stir fry vegetables' or use a combination of fresh or canned veggies... julienned carrotes, onions, bean sprouts, baby corn, broccoli..etc. Add a bottle of your favorite Asian sauce... Teriyaki sauce is nice, or soya sauce and sesame oil. Mush up all together and put into pans! (you don't need to bake.. just pan and freeze)

Chinese chicken: cook a package of chicken breasts in the crockpot with your favorite Asian sauce... Teriyaki sauce is nice, or soya sauce and sesame oil. Cook a few hours until the chicken breaks up into chunks when you put a fork it in... then break up all the chicken into chunks. Add a frozen bag of 'stir fry vegetables' or use a combination of fresh or canned veggies... julienned carrotes, onions, bean sprouts, baby corn, broccoli..etc. Cook for an hour. Add a package of stir-fry noodles. Turn off the crockpot and put into pans when cool.

Chicken stew: cook a package of chicken breasts in the crockpot with seasoning salt and herbs (or chicken soup mix). Add chopped onions and root vegetables... carrot, potato, sweet potato, turnip, parsnip, kolrabe, celery. Cook a few hours until the chicken breaks up into chunks when you put a fork it in... then break up all the chicken into chunks. Add some noodles or ptitim or barley. Turn off the crockpot and put into pans when cool.

Meat stew: cook a package of ground meat (or a package of 'kebab meat') in the crockpot with seasoning salt, water and a can of tomato paste. Add chopped onions and root vegetables... carrot, potato, sweet potato, turnip, parsnip, kolrabe, celery. Cook a bunch of hours. You can add some noodles or ptitim or barley. Turn off the crockpot and put into pans when cool.

Bean stew: cook a package of ground meat in the crockpot with a can of tomato paste and mexican spices (or half a can of tomato paste and a jar of salsa) and a couple of chopped onions. Then add 2 or 3 cans of beans (drained)... I like to use 3 different kinds of beans, like one can of black beans, one of red beans and one of white beans. Turn off the crockpot and put into pans when cool.

Minestrone stew: Cook chopped onions and root vegetables... carrot, potato, sweet potato, turnip, parsnip, kolrabe, celery in water with a can of tomato paste and Italian spices. Cook for a few hours. Add a couple of cans of beans (drained) and add some (uncooked) pasta. Turn off the crockpot and put into pans when cool.

The best thing a busy mom can buy for herself is a big huge crockpot! They're not so expensive and they will save you soooooo much time in preparing food. You should buy the biggest size you can find - even if you've just got 3 small children and not 19 kids like the Duggars. You *WANT* to make more food than you need.

It's also really easy to start a crockpot meal in the morning (and forget about it) and then serve that as dinner and then dish out and freeze the leftovers. If you do this for a week, you'll have a good amount of frozen meals in your freezer that you can reheat as lunch for yourself or serve to your husband as lunch.

And yeah, all it takes is taking a pan out of the freezer and re-heating in the oven.... it would take you longer to make a sandwich!

The care and feeding of mommies

I was at a cafe last week with a friend. Me with my 4-month-old and she with her 3-month-old. My friend was already there when I arrived, so I quickly went to the counter and ordered a large cappuccino and a flaky cheese-filled pastry. My friend was drinking regular coffee and when the waiter brought my drink, she asked him whether they had sugar-free or low-fat cookies. 'Yuck!' I thought, but didn't say out loud. In the end, she got a little quiche and didn't eat the crust. Later that day, it dawned on me. Why had we picked such different breakfast fare? It's because she has two children and I have three.

Yes, when you have three children under the age of 3 you can eat anything you want!!!

Let me explain. Every woman gains weight during pregnancy, whether the child she's carrying is her first or her 20th. The rate at which that woman loses that weight depends on many things, the most important one being whether she actually can find a free 5 minutes in the day to eat!

That's my diet secret.... as much as I try to take care of myself, there are so many times in my day when I have no time to eat. So, when I finally get a moment of respite to sit down and eat...well, it doesn't matter what it is. I can eat that flaky cheese-filled pastry because my body needs fuel and who knows when my next chance to re-fuel will be. Pass the jelly donuts!

You might be laughing, but think about the last time you were at the table with a mom of small children. Unless she had some helpful older children, she likely spent the better part of the meal helping the little ones eat....dishing out food for them, cutting it into little pieces, helping them with their forks, spooning food into their mouths. It didn't leave her much time to eat. So yes, she could have taken a portion of the most fattening food on the table and still not eaten as many calories as the other guests. This is kinda my philosophy... if this is all I get to eat for the next few hours, it better be something good!

If both of my hands are occupied with childcare tasks, then eating takes a back seat. At the moment, that's my life. I slurp down at least one cup of coffee in the morning I get the boys fed and dressed and ready for gan. Then I have a nice half-hour walk up and down the hill with a stroller full of kids.

A mom of small children gets daily exercise whether she wants to or not... it's called pushing a stroller! Even the oldest of my three little puffballs still sits in the stroller - and he's heavy! I recently weighed my kids and realized that I push 63+ pounds of yumminess when I have all three of them in my stroller. (yes, 3 kids in a double stroller, I will explain the mechanics of that sometime later) We are peasants without a car, so the only way my boys are getting to their respective nursery schools is if I walk them there and back. When the boys are gone, I usually take the baby with me as I run errands around the neighborhood... more walking! Add to that the daily weight-lifting of lifting children in and out of cribs and strollers and you have yourself a workout... with cardio and weights!

This is actually something that I'm still working on; finding a balance between taking care of everyone else and taking care of myself. My husband always gets a nice hot lunch because I cook massive crockpot meals and portion them out in aluminium pans in the freezer that he heats up daily. My lunch menu is pretty sporadic. I'm hoping that I will have more time once the baby settles into a schedule. Also, I think that I try to do too much... I will go into the city to run errands when the boys are away and I end up returning home with just enough time to put the baby to bed and leave to pick up the boys. Lunch is falafel, eaten standing at the bus stop.

I really like falafel, but I'm slowly learning to channel my activities into a routine and carve out a few minutes, as needed, to sit down and make myself a wholesome meal. I'm sooooo not into the whole 'I'm a mom, so I need to be a martyr' mentality. I might laugh at my current situation, but I wouldn't take such pride in constantly putting my kids before myself. I think the best parenting advice is something the airlines tell you during the crash safety instructions... when the plane loses oxygen, if you are travelling with a child, put on your own safety mask before you assist the child. I think the lesson is pretty obvious, you can't put an oxygen mask on someone else if you yourself are struggling to breathe. So too with parenting.